on the way to office this morning, i listened to lite fm tht they hav today's topic "can women hav it all, their career & family?". it was almost the end of the show, i guess many women would hav called and shared their opinions already n the last call said yes, she has it all n she is always around be it for the family or her career. before the show ended, the dj played an interesting call from a 13year-old boy's opinion, he said (not the exact words):
"if a mother goes out at 7am n come back at 6pm, wat is motherhood for them? they only come down to see their children at breakfast n leaves for work, they come back in the evening the children is watching tv, or if later, the children hav gone to bed"
i find it's like slapping all the mothers' mouth who thought they hav it all. i'm not blaming them for being a career woman, in fact these superwomen is doin one hell of a tough job to handle career and family at the same time, but, when most of the time only adult debating if one woman is capable to handle both, maybe a child's voice can giv more insight in this topic. end of the day, it's not how much u can handle, it's how you child coping with this.
so, anybody that wants to be a mother, think wat can you giv n if you cant provide the attention all the time, how can you make it up to them. earning big bucks n materials cant buy back the time you've miss in your child's growing years.
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Actually, you are so right.
But, it is really tough to give them 100% of your attention. Even if you want to.
And kids, God bless them, they will only want to go to the toilet when you are half way eating your dinner, or they have something very important to tell you when you are doing your business in the toilet, you know, things like that. Not complaining but the timimg is some times so perfect its funny. So does that mean, a working from home mom like me still give my 100% - Answer: Where got-la!
Then again, I guess its the quality and quantity time that we should be talking about. And not forgetting at what age your child is at too. My daughter, for instance, does not even want you near her room...
Conclusion, no one can have it all-la. Where got such thing?!!
I agree that a working mum can't give her 100%, neither does a mum who works from home....like me and Ms hohoho. Sometimes, I really feel like giving up, especially when you work so hard for them and yet they just don't seem to be so-called, obedient. But, that's life as a mum, a life we mums chose to be. Like it or not, we as children ourselves were a hard lot to deal with in our younger days. Now, I have come to terms with if I have done everything I can to give them the best I can, I should not have regrets. At the end of the day, if they don't turn out to be what we expect them to be, well, it's their lives. But, if they do become somebody one day, we can sit back and laugh about today.
And, hey, have been reading your blog lately, yeah, something I don't normally do. But, just to take my mind
off...work...children...Ha..there, no 100% on the children!
Take care. Angie :)
As a weekend father, I feel sad for not be able to spend more time everyday with my son, to see him growing.
But I make sure we had quality time together at least 2 days in a week. I supposed that's the best most working parent can do these days.
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